Did I Date the Same Guy Twice?

You came along unexpectedly.  I knew you were an alright guy already, so I added you on Facebook. After a while, we started talking through Facebook, but then got to talking a lot over text and on the phone, and we both admitted that it was great talking to each other.

You usually woke up before me because of work; I loved waking up in the morning and seeing that I already had a sweet message from you to read before I went to class.

Then we went on our first date and it was such a nice night. I thought about you constantly after that, and when you asked me to be your girlfriend, I happily said yes.

Things were fantastic after that. You were that most amazing guy I’ve ever known and treated me so well. I was so happy to have someone like you in my life.

But then things started getting busy with work.  And the fact that you had to move out and look for your own apartment didn’t help either.  But the work thing was killing you. It made it so that sweet, amazing guy I once knew wasn’t really there anymore. When I hung out with you or talked to you, it’s like I was with a completely different person.  You were so unhappy, tired, and stressed, and I hated seeing you like that, because I really did care about you.  I know I told you that I would never penalize you for doing your job, but when you started treating me differently because of it, I couldn’t be happy like that.  And you saw that. So you texted me one day, saying that you couldn’t do it anymore and that the whole situation was unfair to me, because you wanted to give me more of your time, but you couldn’t. So you said that it would be best for me if we took a break. Of course I cried after receiving this text, but you insisted that when things settled down with you, we would come back to it… And now here I am.

This paragraph is written toward two completely different guys.  I had two guys who don’t even know each other do the same exact thing to me within 5 months of each other.  And I handled both situations differently, but still ended up in the same spot.  And guys wonder why us girls think all guys are the same? 

And this is why I have lost all trust in people, especially the entire male species, and also, my hope that true love really exists is pretty close to dead.  

Guy Rant: Should've Been Expecting One of These Eventually

I'm convinced that guys possess a special talent.  What is this talent?
Somehow, guys have some way of getting into your head and finding out when you're getting on perfectly well without him.  When you're happy, and your life is great, and you're just about over him, he knows. Don't ask me how, but he does.  And then at this peak moment of greatness, he may text, or call, or Facebook you a message that, even if meant innocently, can take you off of that high in a heartbeat.

Can someone please tell me how guys know this stuff? Especially when he doesn't even have you on Facebook, and you haven't talked to him in weeks, so there's really not much of a way for him to find out exactly how well and great you're doing.  Like, do they just get this intuition or something?  Some little voice in the back of their head that's all like, 

"She seems to be doing pretty well... Text her and tell her you miss her, and screw it up."

And then the girl just sits there in the same position with the same mind-effing, confused feelings she possessed about a month ago.
And then she writes a blog post about it, because she really just does not know what to do about it anymore.

I typically don't like posting stuff like this on here, but it has gotten to the point that I am just beginning to strongly dislike the male species.  Sorry to any guys potentially reading this if you get offended, but all guys are the same.  This is the fourth consecutive guy who has messed with my head immensely, and possibly just use me, and I keep trying to get away from guys who do that, but it's at the point where I'm convinced that all guys are just like that.  And if you want to argue that they're not, then I guess I'm just attracted to assholes. Which needs to stop ASAP.

I have never felt this strongly about a guy before, and I honestly don't even know what exactly that feeling even is. Good? Bad? Flat out pissed? No idea. Part of me wants to keep him in my life, but I feel like an  even bigger part just wants him out of it completely. Which one do you choose when you're at the point that a regular friendship is not a possible option? Cause we tried that, and I ended up going with the latter of just not talking to him completely. And then today happened. And now I'm right back where I'm started.

Where is that one guy who is supposed to prove to me they're not all the same?

I'm patiently waiting for you.